When parents ask "Is my child intelligent?" they're really asking, "Can my kid score well on tests? Think quickly? Win arguments?"They're measuring Mercury: logic, data, processing speed. They want to know if their child is a good computer, but they're asking the wrong question entirely.

You're doing everything right. The morning routine is locked in. You're journaling, meditating, using the right face oils, buying the ethically sourced sage. You've got the therapist, the supplements, the boundary scripts saved in your notes app. You're performing wellness like it's a fucking Olympic sport. And you're still exhausted. Here's why: Self-care got colonized. What started as a radical actBlack feminists and activists insisting that rest is resistance in a system