Let's talk about the words people use to make you feel like your existence is a problem. "You're intimidating." "You're too intense." "You're too much." "You're being dramatic." "You need to chill." "You're too sensitive." "Can't you just be easy?" If you've heard any version of this especially from people you wanted connection with, people you were vulnerable with, people you thought were safe here's what actually happened: You had needs. You expressed desire. You set a bo

If you're always the one listening, fixing, holding space, and managing everyone's emotions while yours get dismissed as "too much," you're not empathetic. You're not kind. You're not a good friend, daughter, partner, or coworker. You're being exploited. And the fucked up part? They've convinced you that this is a virtue. That being the person everyone vents to makes you special. That your ability to absorb everyone's chaos without ever burdening them with yours is what mak

There's a narrative going viral right now about Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce. You've probably seen it. The take goes like this: "Successful woman makes man famous. Man's ego can't handle it. Man destroys woman for giving him power." It sounds feminist. It sounds like accountability. It sounds like it's naming patriarchy and protecting women but It's actually the opposite.

You were told he's the "fun guy." The charming athlete who doesn't take himself too seriously. The goofy romantic who fell for Taylor Swift and isn't afraid to show it. The guy who shows up, who celebrates his partner, who's just here for a good time.

October 21, 2025, 8:24 AM ETNew Moon at 28°21' Libra This New Moon doesn't happen in isolation. It happens in the middle of the Mercury-Mars-Lilith conjunction in Scorpio (Oct 20-26). That timing matters more than the transit itself. Here's where you are in October: October 6: Aries Full Moon showed you the pattern of self-abandonmentOctober 20-26: Mercury-Mars-Lilith gives you language for what you sawOctober 21: This New Moon asks what you're going to do about it. This